Dating advice for young single moms
Sexy single moms will put up with more of your little ideocracies, because they know a lot of men will not date a woman with kids, but they will also demand more because are always thinking about how your behavior is going to impact their child. They know marrying a man from overseas can revolutionize their life and the life of their child.
At the same time the cultural issues are more serious, because not only do you have to work out the cultural and social issues with your new lady you have to let the child understand who you are and what you are doing.
I’ve spent the past three years dating as a single mom – including a year-long relationship—and let me tell you something: there is no better time than to date than as a single mom. When I was dating in my twenties, I was looking for a husband with a healthy set of testicles with which to sire children. You survived that, and not only are you better for it – you’re sexier for it. Age and childbearing has allowed you to enjoy your body for all it has to offer. When I met my husband in my mid-twenties, I was still struggling to make my way professionally. When we do have time for boyfriends, we make the very most of it. There is less temptation to piddle away hours waiting on losers to commit just because you’re lonely (you will end up selling your engagement ring anyway with those guys).
I can check that off my life to-do list and look for a man for love or companionship or sex – or all three. Whether the single part was by way of divorce, breakup, death or choice, it was a big deal, and that changed you. I have lunches to make and doctor appointments to schedule. Busy single moms have fewer lonely nights to fill, fewer dinners eaten alone.
You probably hate that idea - none of us want to drag up the things from our past that have hurt us, but if you want to have healthy relationships you need to deal with your past first. There are a lot of reasons, but they are double for single moms. Even if you find yourself struggling with the loneliness of being newly single, or how desperate you might feel to find new love, you still have your kids to think about.
My single-mom body is a wreck and I haven’t been on a date in 15 years! Confidence, a full heart, and life experience all equals being a richer, fuller person. My longest friendships were still forming, and I was still figuring out what was most important to me. Women with kids have a whole lot of responsibilities. Time is precious, and efficient moms know that the best way to spend time with a man is truly enjoying a really, really great one.
Fortunately these kinds of women are in the minority, whereas most single moms are just looking for a good guy to share their life with.